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Write to Your Current Self

March 26, 2014
letter to self

Photo courtesy of Torley.

I am sure you have an idea of what you want to achieve in the next 10 or 15 years.  It may be vague or exact but we all have some place we want to be.  Some want to be married with kids, others want to have a million dollars, and others dream of living on the beach enjoying their retirement.

Whatever it is you want to have or do in the future, write to your current self like you are sending the letter back through time.  Write like you have already achieved the goal and how much you are enjoying it.  Put this letter somewhere that you can find it later and see how accurate your future self was when the time comes along.

What is the one big thing you would like to accomplish in the next decade beyond anything else?

 

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The Past Can Hurt and Heal

February 26, 2014
Arrow - Move Forward

Photo Courtesy of Antony Mayfield.

It is true.  The past can hurt quite a bit.  The one thing to realize, and it may take some searching, is the hurt served you in some way.  Maybe it got you out of a bad relationship, an addiction, or caused you to start the career path that you are on.

If you find out how your past served you it can also help you heal the emotional pain.

If you did something to harm another reach out to them to to try and attempt to make it better.  Even if the person doesn’t accept you need to know that you tried.  This can free you in so many ways and help ensure that you don’t make the same mistakes again.

Learn from your past but look forward to your future.  Living in the past serves no productive purpose.  Using it to learn from can be your greatest gift.

“The past can hurt, but you can either run from it or learn from it.”  Rafiki – The Lion King

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Your Past Does Not Dictate Your Future

January 16, 2013

So many people seem to think that their past defines everything about their future.  This is simply a myth.  While I will say that your past has helped shape you it should never define you.

Have you noticed when you see one person who says that their life sucks they do things that cause this (they spend money they can’t afford, complain about everything, drive people away, etc)?  And then you have the other person who says that life is great and they seem to have everything in order (good relationships, savings, friends, etc)?

The human brain is a remarkable thing.  It provides you with the answers and reasoning you are searching for whether right or wrong.  Your life might be great when other people look at it but when you continue to tell yourself you have the worst luck and a bad life then your brain starts to provide you with how you have the worst luck and what you are doing wrong in your life.

If you want to change you can.  Will you?

 

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