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Remember the Journey

May 29, 2013
Oak Island, NC

Oak Island, NC – One of our journeys to the ocean.

Do you remember to remember your journey?

Many times getting to where you currently are or where you want to be is an extreme struggle.  You tend to want to forget the pitfalls and the things that tried your last nerve.  However, that journey is part of you and you should remember and be proud that you made it; that you were able to reach the destination.

Remember Wilson from the television show Home Improvement?  He told Tim a story about a gift.  This isn’t verbatim but it is the deep story:

There was a child in Africa who wanted to get his teacher a present but he had no money.  The child decided to walk two days to the ocean, picked up a handful of sand, and returned home.  Once there he gave his teacher the sand where she said “But the ocean is so far away!”  The little child responded “The journey was part of the gift.”

So remember, the journey is part of the gift to yourself.  Cherish it. Journal it.  Remember it.

 

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I Dare You

May 22, 2013
Jason Kincaid

Professional wrestler Jason Kincaid on top of the world doing a handstand overlooking a deep gorge.  Photo by Will Trotter.  Used with permission.

This week I wanted to share a small piece from the book “I Dare You” by William H. Danforth.  I hope it means something to you.

I loved it the first time I heard these lines.  We were digging through a bin of books and came across a small leather-bound red one with “I Dare You” in silver ink on the cover.  I dare you, after reading this, to go do amazing things for other people.

I DARE YOU!

IT IS DIFFICULT to put a challenge on paper. I would rather look you straight in the eye and say, “I dare you!” In my mind that’s exactly what I am doing. I am on one side of a table. You are on the other. I am looking across and saying “I dare you!”

I Dare You, young man, you who come from a home of poverty—I dare you to have the qualities of a Lincoln.

I Dare You, heir of wealth and proud ancestry, with your generations of worthy stock, your traditions of leadership—I dare you to achieve something that will make the future point to you with even more pride than the present is pointing to those who have gone before you.

I Dare You, young mother, to make your life a masterpiece upon which that little family of yours can build. Strong women bring forth strong men.

I Dare You. boys and girls, to make life obey you, not you it. It is only a shallow dare to do the foolish things. I dare you to do the uplifting, courageous things.

I Dare You, young executive, to shoulder more responsibility joyously, to launch out into the deep, to build magnificently.

I Dare You, young author, to win the Nobel prize.

I Dare You, young researcher, to become a Microbe Hunter.

I Dare You, boy on the farm, to become a Master Farmer—A Hunger Fighter.

I Dare You, man of affairs, to have a “Magnificent Obsession.”

I Dare You, Grandfather, with your roots deep in the soil and your head above the crowd, catching the rays of the sun, to plan a daring program to crown the years of your life.

I Dare You, who think life is humdrum, to become involved. I dare you who are weak to be strong; you who are dull to be sparkling; you who are slaves to be kings.

I Dare You, whoever you are, to share with others the fruits of your daring. Catch a passion for helping others and a richer life will come back to you!

William H Danforth

 

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Go First

May 15, 2013

Jon AcuffOn a recent EntreLeadership Podcast Jon Acuff mentioned something I really liked and wanted to share.  He mentioned that as a leader you need to take the first step and allow everyone else to go second.  Why?  Because it is easier to go second and more people will follow.

This is something all leaders need to understand.  To get people to follow you have to go first (sounds obvious, right?).  But so many “leaders” want to tell people where to go instead of leading them where to go.  People are more likely to follow your actions.

Imagine working in a fast food business and you see your manager empty the trash every night while you are doing the final cleaning.  He doesn’t call attention to it but you notice that he is doing it.  One night he is swamped with office work and without considering anything you simply go and take out the trash without being asked.  Why did you do this?  Some will answer because it is their job.  I expect many others will say it is because their LEADER does it all the time they were willing to help him out without being asked.

There was an excellent TED Talk by Derek Sivers on “How to Start a Movement” where one person is in a park and starts dancing (the leader) which made it easier for a second person, then more, and more, and more until they had a group.  The hardest thing was not the dancing but being the first one to dance.

If you want to be a leader then do it first.


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Change Starts Within

May 8, 2013
What change do you want to see in the world?

Image courtesy of Dreamfish.

You can only control yourself.  No matter how much you want to change other people you have no control over them – you are not their keeper.  But if you really want to change the world look within yourself.  I can’t say it any better than this:

“When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country. But it too seemed immovable. As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me. But alas they would have none of it. And now as I realize as I lie on my deathbed, if I had only changed myself first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement I would have been able to better my country and who knows, I might have even changed the world.”

That inscription is on a tomb dated 1100 A.D. in Westminster Abbey.  I think the person who created it sums it up perfectly.
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Book Review: Keep Your Eye on the Marshmallow

May 6, 2013

Keep Your Eye On The Marshmallow

“Keep Your Eye on the Marshmallow” is a follow-up book to two previous releases that discuss the “Marshmallow Principle.”  It is written by Joachim de Posada.  *Note:  I have not yet read the first two books and it is not necessary to have done so to read this one.*

I really enjoyed the parable and I believe you can get a lot out of this book.  It really puts into perspective delaying gratification and why you should do so.  It also shows work-life balance which I often see as a problem in our hustle, on the move, world.

Arthur, the main character, is easy to like.  You probably know an Arthur or you may be him yourself.  He is a go getter that goes out and does a great job.  However, he is stagnant and doesn’t want to take that next step toward greatness.  He fears losing his family and seeks council where you really get into the meat of the material.

After the parable de Posada gives us Shawn Achor’s five actions to take everyday.  I think this is something great that goes right along with the book and it stood out to me because I do most of these things but it shows me that if I do the couple that I have not started that I can make a huge difference in myself.

The book is a quick and easy read.  I would recommend this book to anyone who feels they have problems with self-discipline or want to get ahead but just aren’t sure what is stopping them.

If you would like to get other peoples point of view or purchase the book you can do so on Amazon.

*Note: I received a copy of this book at no charge in exchange for my honest review.*

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Give Something Today

May 1, 2013

Jeff McBrideJeff McBride is a magician that I have been studying for many years. When I got into magic in my teens I was fascinated with some of the things he did with playing cards. Later on I would listen more to what he had to say rather than what he was doing in his act. One of the consistent things I would hear was to create a magical moment for someone just to be doing it; just to gift them that moment.

I think this is something that everyone should do on a regular basis.  Think of something you can do for someone that might be out of the ordinary for someone to do but extraordinary for the person you are doing it for.  Think about something as simple as sending a letter to a manager telling them what a good clerk they have working for them.  Do you know how rare a compliment is like that and how you can stand out and make a day brighter?

Think of something you can do at least once a week, preferably once a day, to help make someone’s day a little brighter.

 

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